Of Time and Money

Of time and money

It may not seem like there is any connection between time and money. We know however that if you spend time working you usually get rewarded with money. This is not the only connection.

We have here in this life only a limited amount of time available to us.

We also have only a limited amount of money.
But you may say that some people have a lot more money than most. This is true, but some people have more time than most.

When it comes to the point of the discussion, what we do with these resources of time and money make the difference in our lives and to some extent the lives of others as well.

I think it was Benjamin Franklin who said, "Do not squander time, for that is the stuff life is made of." My parents would often quote this to my brothers and me.

Christ said in a parable about a man who had money and goods and said that he would tear down his barns and build bigger ones to store his goods in. The upshot of the story was that the man died that very night.  What good did his money do? He ran out of time, and then the riches were of no use to him.

I might tell you a story of my good friend from high school, Donald Doughty, to further illustrate the point.  Don and I both played the clarinet. We occasionally did things together. One summer we went to Laramie to a summer band camp at the University of Wyoming. We competed for first chair first clarinet the following school year. My senior year Don went to the university and I became the first chair.

Don started smoking in high school. He went on to become a computer whiz kid. He sold his disk operating system and became a very wealthy man.
One day he came back to Lander to visit. He had emphysema and trouble breathing. He said that if he lifted the skin on his nose a certain way that he could breath easier. I did a little plastic surgery on his nose and he was appreciative of the result.

Because of his wealth and other circumstances his wife divorced him and made off with half of his fortune.

He found out that your grandmother worked for the travel agency, so she booked travel for him. She got a call from him one day from South America. He had been to Manchu Pichu and had gotten altitude sickness and ended up in the hospital where the doctor stole his cash. He was able to fly home where he wanted to get a heart lung transplant. Unfortunately he died before he could receive treatment for his chronic lung disease. 

So he wasted his time here on this earth and his money.

If you think that this in some way doesn't happen to many people, you are naive.

Time and money are to be used to improve ourselves and bless our fellow men. Any time we use time and money inappropriately we do not take advantage of the reason we were placed here on the earth. Christ made that perfectly clear when he taught here on the earth.

What are we to do with our time and money here on this earth? We are to do many things, but two things stand out to me. We are to do good and improve ourselves and others.

We have a lot to learn about everything. We should be constantly learning and improving ourselves. This is no time to spend our hours sitting on the couch watching TV and eating chocolates.

As the song goes; we have work enough to do e'r the sun goes down. We spend a lot of our time and money on things that have no eternal worth. Even our thoughts are subject to eternal scrutiny.
This does not mean that we must be at it 24/7, but it does mean we should be prudent with our time and money. We need to know that there will be an accounting that we will have to give to The Lord.

I must now at this point address a prevalent illness in our society. Because electronic devices are so ubiquitous, there are countless hours spent playing mindless video games. Most all of the games that I have seen have no socially redeeming value. Rarely does one learn anything useful or educational except how to maneuver a joystick. If those who indulge in playing for hours on end would use the time spent on the device to learn a new language, read some of the classics such as Shakespeare, Sir Walter Scott or James Fennimore Cooper, or watch Pavarotti on You Tube, they would at least have something at the end to show for it.

There are so many good and uplifting things to spend your time doing, rather than squandering time at something that will not improve you and make you a better person.

You only have one life to live. Live it to make you a better individual and by so doing enrich the lives of those around you.

Love,

Grandpa

Decisions Determine Destiny

'Decisions determine destiny'

The home teaching message for January 2015 was by President Thomas S. Monson. The above quote was from that message.

Another statement from that message was; ‘history turns on small hinges and so do our lives’.

You, my grandchildren, will see how true these statements are. It is very important for you to make the correct decisions in your life. The commandments of God are a good place to start. The world will tell you that these are restrictive, but they are eternal laws of happiness. You can never break the commandments of The Lord you only break yourself against them.

I have learned that even the slightest deviation from the commandments of The Lord eventually brings sadness and misery into our lives. This may occur as a result of our own transgression or someone else's not keeping the commandments. As an example many innocent people died recently, because some terrorist did not heed the commandment to love their neighbor and 'thou shalt not kill'.

We will all make decisions that will turn out to be in error, but we should never make a decision that we know is contrary to what we know and have been taught to be right. We sing the song 'Do what is right, let the consequence follow.'

The nice part about this is that we can always make course corrections. We do not always have to continue down the wrong path. We may have to suffer the consequence of a bad decision, but through repentance we can avoid the eternal consequences.
The sad part about making poor choices is that they not only hurt us, but they hurt other people as well. We do not live in a vacuum. We are put into families for a reason. We were not hatched on a rock with no one to care about us or love us. When we make poor choices true parents do not say a Kaddish and never have anything to do with us. They may have their hearts rended and broken, but we are still bound by covenants to them and The Lord.

The parable of the prodigal son is illustrative of the principle of the love and patience of the father and most parents who are grounded in the gospel of Christ. We sorrow when those that we love make decisions, which bring us pain and bring undesirable consequences to the decision maker.

Unfortunately decisions do determine destiny and history does turn on very small hinges. When I was in high school we studied a number of Shakespeare's plays. He wrote Julius Caesar. Brutus and Cassius were key players in the drama. At one point Cassius says' The fault dear Brutus is not in our stars, but in ourselves that we are underlings."

There is a false notion that has pervaded the thinking of men from the beginning that if the stars were not aligned in our favor that nothing we could do would change the outcome. Our actions do determine what happen in our life. As is often quoted from the poem Invictus, we are the masters of our fate and the captains of our soul.

D&C 93:39-40 lets us know that when we are disobedient the wicked one comes and takes away our light and the truth that we have, thus our decisions do have very subtle consequences that we may be unaware of.

Please make the right decisions so that your destiny will be all that you are capable of.
 
Love,

Grandpa

Heath Care

In a recent discussion I was made more acutely aware of the changes in health care and the challenges that these changes present.

In order to help my posterity with some of the things that will be of help in the next few years, I will post these suggestions on this Blog.

The access to medical care is changing and will continue to morph until it will no longer be the same.
The sources will change and the avenues will become more difficult to navigate.  It will be imperative for you to be proactive and not rely on outside sources.
The insurance that is now operative requires medical records to be kept electronically.  This makes them more subject to loss. There are malicious individuals who may hack into the computer and alter or destroy data.  My suggestion is that you keep your own Heath records.  They do not have to be paper, they can be digital but they need to be copied so you have a digital copy in a safe and secure place such as a flash drive backup, which you can care with you on your key chain.

Changes in providers either within the same city or as a result of our mobile population are inevitable. If you have your records in digital format it will save you time when you go to a new facility or provider.
What should you include in the medical record?

A list of medications
Any allergies
Previous illnesses (include everything)
Previous surgical procedures
Family illnesses
Immunizations with dates

Every encounter with a health care provider should be documented with date, diagnosis and treatment. Do not rely on someone else, at least make a note either in your smart phone, paper note book or your computer. Keep track of the medications prescribed.
 
The care will become more depersonalized, as ancillary caregivers become more the norm. We now find what I call 'doc in the box' or urgent care centers. In a recent trip to Arizona I saw an ambulatory care center next to a gas station. CVS pharmacies now offer medical care as well. I have entitled one of the reports to the church medical service committee "The new kid on the block". It was a list of pharmacies that offer immunizations on a no wait, no appointment basis with comparative prices.

When I was in practice we used the term 'medical home'. It was thought that if people had one place to receive medical care it was ideal. The doctor was then to direct them to specialty care if needed. It hasn't worked well, because some doctors were not well versed in taking care of patients and the patients went to specialists without a referral. Thus it became fragmented care with multiple practitioners prescribing without knowing what other medications the patient is taking.

Rather than being dependent on someone else, you need to keep your own medical records from now on.

Love,

Grandpa

The principle of the knock

The principle of the knock

This dispensation was ushered in by a small boy who wanted to know which church to join and had the temerity to believe that he would get an answer to a prayer.

You are well acquainted with the scripture in James, so I will not repeat it here.

There is also scripture that goes something like this, seek and you shall find, ask and you shall receive, knock and it shall be opened unto you[1].  Many years ago I wrote a little piece when I was stake president. It was before I had a computer, so I have no copy of that document. 

I will try and remember the gist of that.

One of the reasons that more people do not gain knowledge or a testimony is because they do not ask with real intent, if they ask at all.

The Lord works by principle. If we go back to Adam and all the prophets, they all had to ask before they received the knowledge they were seeking.

I think that when we are given things, whether it be material goods or knowledge, without any effort or sacrifice on our part, there is no appreciation of the gift that is given.

President Packer once gave a talk about advice. The sum and substance of the talk was if you ask for advice from a prophet (or any one else for that matter) and then decide not to follow it, you have wasted both his/their time and yours.

People cannot resolve problems by sweeping them under the rug and running away.

The scripture instructs us to meet together in private and resolve the issue that we are not esteemed to be enemies.

On May 2 2014 I wrote on my Letters from Grandpa Blog the parable of the father and the child. This details what happens often in our society.  We expect to have all our problems solved with little or no effort on our part.

I have made it my policy not to interfere with anyone’s agency. (I have written about this before.) If they seek counsel I will give considered insight, but will not do so unless they put forth the effort to ask and to act.

This is what I call the principal of the knock.

We often have a tendency to blame ourselves for our children's failures and shortcomings and do not realize that in spite of our imperfections and lack of good judgment, which we all have at some point, the individual is an agent unto themselves even at a very early age. They are the captains of their fate and the masters of their souls and through the atonement of Christ will overcome all things by obedience.

So knock, ask, and seek.  That is the principle of the knock.

Love,

Grandpa

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[1] Matthew 7:8  Say unto them, Ask of God; ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.

Sin like illness is best treated early in its course.

Sin like illness is best treated early in its course.
I have been learning about and associated with illness for fifty-six years. I have learned that in most cases early intervention is the key to a cure, or if not, at least an arrest in the progression of the disease.

I am usually able to make a diagnosis by listening to the symptoms and their progression through time.  In many cases I can make a diagnosis and prescribe treatment by listening to the patient describe the symptoms and their progression and ask pertinent questions. In some cases intervention of a surgical nature or hospital treatment needs to be instituted in order for the patient to return to some measure of health.

The earlier the treatment is instituted, the better the outcome. In some cases the patient waits too long and debility or death is the result.

Sin is much like disease. It, in essence, is spiritual illness. Sin is a transgression of the laws of God. Like physical illness, spiritual illness has symptoms and may result in spiritual death.

There are many times when we see someone who exhibits the symptoms of spiritual disease. Although there are many symptoms, I will enumerate a few that I have observed recently. One of the most prominent is outrage. It seems like when things do not meet our expectations; people demonstrate, riot, say nasty things on social media and generally act out their frustrations.

I was struck by a headline in the paper today with a national organization calling for a federal investigation of a local police action resulting in the death of a young man. The mother understandingly was upset, but would not let it alone.  She acted out to the point where she was charged with a transgression of a statute outlining how one should properly behave in polite society. It is possible that because of her actions she could be fined or serve time in jail to recompense her actions.

How utterly stupid to allow frustration or outrage to govern our actions. Although one can understand people’s reactions, they can never be justified. Our example, Christ, suffered far greater indignities, but paid them no heed.

By reacting to such injustices we separate ourselves from God because of our spiritual illness. There are those that would argue that He would understand how things were and look the other way. It was Christ who said, love your enemies and to pray for them that despitefully use us and persecute us. Christ never condones sin.

Why? Because it renders us unfit to associate with our Father who is perfect and cannot look upon sin with the least degree of allowance.

The gospel of Jesus Christ and the Father is one of healing to make us, his children, whole and well again, freed from sickness and iniquity.

Thus outrage and acting out is a symptom of a deeper problem or in other words spiritual illness. Elder Boyd K. Packer once gave a talk on letting things go. If we are whole spiritually we may have the feeling that things did not go like we would have desired. We may be anguished, but we would never act out or seek retribution. We would leave it in the Lord's hand and say, as He instructed, "Let The Lord judge between me and thee and reward thee according to thy works."

How do people get spiritual disease or sin?  They fail to do rather simple things: keep the commandments, pray earnestly, and immerse themselves in the scriptures so they can be acquainted with his voice.
We all come short of the mark, but it is the true saint who recognizes his errors and accepts correction and changes his behavior. This spiritual illness must be addressed early and often. If repentance is procrastinated then rationalization appears and we are bound in fetters, which may require major and painful extraction.

Another symptom of spiritual disease is dishonesty.  This includes lying and stealing. If a person has a pure testimony of The Lord Jesus Christ they will not rationalize their integrity. They know who they are and what God expects of them.  They will quickly correct any deviation from that spiritual plane that will bring them closer to God.  Lying and dishonesty are like a rapidly progressive disease.  If not treated it becomes a way of life and eventually the individual has their conscience dulled and they become past feeling and spiritually die even though they are physically alive.  The treatment must be administered early and in most cases is very painful.

Thus lying is not the disease, but a symptom of our lack of faith and conformity to God's will and commandments.  We have nothing to give to God but our obedience to His commandments. If Christ submitted His will to The Father, how much more are we in need of submission to the Father?

The cure for illness is varied and depends on the disease. There is no universal cure. Sometimes an antibiotic will take care of the problem or it may require surgery to make the person whole again or at the least be restored to some measure of health. In some cases chemotherapy or radiation may halt it for a while or provide a remission, but a person is never really restored to a pristine state.

In contrast, the cure for sin, if truly instituted is all-encompassing and total. "Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be white.."

There is no universal antidote for poison, but there is a universal antidote for sin.  It is simple faith in Christ and true repentance. There is no substitute magic potion that will cleanse sin.  There is no substitute for Christ and his commandments.  To paraphrase an oft-quoted scripture in the Book of Mormon, I rejoice in Christ, I talk of Christ, I prophesy and testify of Christ and I write of Christ and hope that my posterity will look to Christ for their eternal happiness and salvation and remission of their sins. That they may know that it is only through the grace of the Holy Messiah that they will come back into the presence of their Eternal Heavenly Father to dwell.

Christ has the healing in his wings to heal all sin, but it can only come through the healing balm of true, sincere repentance. Therefore; my grandchildren, please repent and keep the commandments fully and completely and be whole.

Love,

Grandpa

Thoughts on ordaining Philip to the office of High Priest

Thoughts on ordaining Philip to the office of High Priest

When I was a young man my father conferred upon me the Aaronic Priesthood and ordained me a Deacon, Teacher and Priest.  This was the pattern that I grew up with and one that I expected to continue.

I do not remember what my priesthood line of authority was when my father was an Elder. Just prior to moving to Lander my father was called to be a counselor in the bishopric and as such it was necessary for him to be ordained a High Priest and set apart as a member of the bishopric. At that time this was only done by a general authority. Elder Joseph Francis Merrill of the Council of the Twelve was assigned to the Denver stake conference and was given the assignment to ordain my father to the office of High Priest and set him apart as a member of the bishopric.

Elder Merrill was the son of my grandmother Gee's grandfather Marriner W. Merrill. Thus he was her uncle. He came to dinner at our house. That is about all that I remember.

Between my freshman and sophomore year in college I came home for the summer to work. My father was the branch president and he interviewed me to receive the Melchizedek priesthood and be ordained to the office of Elder. Since we were in the West Central States Mission, I had to be interviewed by the mission president, Sylvester Broadbent.

My parents and I went over to Riverton to meet with President Broadbent. He had some business to do, so he gave me the assignment to read the 84th section of the Doctrine and Covenants. He then brought me in to the branch president's office and laid his hands upon my head and conferred upon me the Melchizedek priesthood and ordained me to the office of Elder. I was expecting my father to do this. I am sure that he was disappointed as well. I got President Boadbent's line of priesthood authority. I wrote it down and then copied it later into my missionary journal.

At that time it was not the practice for people to follow the patriarchal line of priesthood authority. Although there are still some priesthood leaders in the church that are of the opinion that it really doesn't matter and that the priesthood is the same, I have always thought that, if possible, the father, if worthy, should ordain the son.

After I came back from California l was called to serve on the high council. As a result it was necessary for me to be ordained to the office of High Priest. My father was, at that time, serving as a counselor in the stake presidency. He ordained me to the office of High Priest and thus my priesthood lineage was again through my father's line of authority.

All of my sons were ordained to the office of Elder by me so their line of priesthood authority followed mine.

While we were serving our mission in Frankfurt Clark was called to serve on the high council. He obtained permission from his stake president to fly to Frankfurt for me to ordain him to the office of High Priest. We were able to accomplish this.  I was pleased that they would allow him to be ordained by his father.

During the time that we were home from our first mission John was asked to be the secretary of the high priest's group and he asked me to come down to Provo and ordain him to that office. I was then able to honor that request.

While we were on our mission to Russia Joseph was called to serve in the bishopric and wanted me to ordain him to the office of High Priest. He arranged for a flight to Frankfurt and we obtained permission from the area presidency to fly from Moscow to Frankfurt as well.  Marcus came to Frankfurt and we all met together in a hotel room and I ordained Joseph to the office of High Priest.

Philip also wanted me to ordain him as well and knew that I was getting older. He visited with the stake president and asked him if that were a possibility. There was no reason for him to hold that office and so nothing was done about it.

I recently received a call from Philip asking if we would not come down to Dallas. He had been released as a seminary teacher and called to be a member of the bishopric and wanted us the fly down and for me to ordain him to the office of High Priest, which was done on August 16th.

I feel honored and humbled to be able to have had this singular opportunity granted to me. I think of all those who I have ordained as Elders and High Priests who carry my line of priesthood authority. I think of those whose fathers were worthy to perform this ordinance and were not given the opportunity.
Although it doesn't really matter who does the ordaining, I believe that in the beginning that The Lord wanted the priesthood to go from righteous father to righteous son whenever possible. I take this from the book of Abraham, where he "Sought for the blessings of the fathers, and the right whereunto I should be ordained to administer the same; having been myself a follower of righteousness, desiring also to be one who possessed great knowledge, and to be a greater follower of righteousness, and to possess a greater knowledge, and to be a father of many nations, a prince of peace, and desiring to receive instructions, and to keep the commandments of God, I became a rightful heir, a High Priest, holding the right belonging to the fathers."

I am humbled and honored to be able to pass on my line of authority to my sons. It is a privilege to be able to do that sacred ordinance.

Do not take this opportunity lightly.

Love

Grandpa

The articles of faith revisited for my grandchildren.

The articles of faith revisited for my grandchildren.
Recently it was brought to my attention that one of the first definitions of the word faith in the English language was loyalty. With that in mind I would like to refer to the articles of faith to include loyalty.

We can call this the articles of loyalty to God.

First we are loyal to God the Eternal Father and to his son Jesus Christ and to the Holy Ghost.

We are then loyal to the doctrine revealed by God to the prophet Joseph Smith.

Each of the statements in our Articles of Faith delineate our commitment and loyalty to those principles which make up the core doctrines of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ.

Both James E. Talmage and Bruce R. McConkie have written books about the Articles of Faith. You should know and do what these principles espouse. You probably learned to repeat these (The Articles of Faith) by memory in primary. It takes more than being able to quote them. If you do not believe them and practice them in your life, they will be as sounding brass and tinkling cymbals signifying nothing.

Ask yourself do you really believe in being honest? Are you not only a truthful person, but are you true to God and his commandments? One of the questions asked in an interview for a temple recommend is; are you honest in your dealings with your fellow men?

Are you chaste? This refers to thoughts as well as actions.

How many of you know what being benevolent means? How can you be benevolent if you do not understand what kind of attribute it is? Look it up in the dictionary.

The scripture admonishes us to let virtue garnish our thoughts unceasingly so that our confidence will wax strong in the presence of God. We need to know what virtue means; otherwise we only pay lip service to this characteristic. As an example: advertisements and TV programs that invite us to shun virtue and become worldly in our attitude surround us.

Do we do good to all men? We are to treat our friends and our enemies the same. This is hard to do, but if we are loyal to God, we will treat them as He would.

The next statement is about belief, hope and endurance. A runner that does not finish the race has not endured. The actual thing we want to do is endure in faith and loyalty to God to the end of our mortal existence.

We must the constantly seek for good, that which is lovely or worthy of praise by righteous people. We need to be comfortable in the presence of the kings and queens of the world, because you my grandchildren are destined to become the kings and queens of the king of heaven. He is refined and you might want to read Elder Callister's talk on our refined heavenly home at this link.

By loyal to the royal in you.

Love,
Grandpa